i agree with all the statements above, but i think the thing we must remember most in times like these is this: we shouldnt be selfish(as far as our personal hardships go), think about him and the things he's having to go through. i think this is the hardest part of it all, and also the most surreal life gets. if u were suffering, or hurting and going through so much pain and agony, would u wanna live that way? its hard to say these things, but one day we'll all be at that point, and just know he loves u and let him know u love him man this is the toughest time in my life too, and i know a few other members r going through tough times, just again know we r here for u and ur not alone. god bless ur family, be strong for him, cuz he was always strong for u.