Just pulling the pan does not "flush the system" in fact alot of the fluid will still be in the converter. If you want it "flushed" you will need to take it to a shop, they can hook it to a machine and will get all the old fluid out. As far a the filter, just go to Napa and have them look it up. I think if you want a little firmer shift that can be accomplished with a tune, firmer than that get a shift kit and a tune...
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