so after talking with Redheartbeat he help me diagnose my trans issue. the 2-3 solenoid was either blown or not getting any power. so i dropped the pan today and bench tested the solenoid. it was good. checked the wiring and there was a break somewhere. after going through the entire harness i find this!

kinda hard to see the the blk/yel wire is disconected. i hooked it back up and voila! we have power! so i figure now i dropped the pan ill change the filter and fluid. also clean up the pan.