mentally preparing myself

[xlr82sxs]

my grandfather has been in the hospital over the past week for a minor heart attack.. this is one of 3 that he has had. last night my family and i had gone and visited him and he was in great spirits and getting around just fine, while acting like his normal self.

he was supposed to have open heart surgery today, but after evaluation his doctor decided against it. they figure with his age and how extensive the damage to his heart is, he would be better off sent home with medication, AGAIN. don't get me wrong, the medication they gave him last time gave him 6 more years to live, to this day and then some.

what i want to know is, what's the easiest way to prepare myself for his death, which could be anyday now.. (knock on wood) hopefully not anytime soon.

thanks for any guidance here..

[ducky]

Hey man we are all supporting you. I send my condolences to your family. I think most of us have all gone through some kind of rough times. Stay Strong man and just remember to show him alot of love no matter what. God Bless

-david

[Red03SilSS]

Hey man, people have all different ways of dealing with death. Its the hardest thing in life to go through, whether it is a family pet or a close loved one. You just have to set yourself at peace, and know the he wont be suffering anymore and is in a better place. We are here for you. We're all like 1 big family here. I hope everything works out great and he lives another 6 years. It sucks, I know. But we are here for you.

[bud8fan]

beleive me its no better knowing the person is gonna go soon or is a sudden death....we all hate it when we loose a loved one....i didnt share this but i lost my older brother to congestive heart failure on friday 8/12 ...he was only 56 years old and was under dr's care for a infection in his leg...what a shocker!!!
the best thing you can do is be strong for one another when that dreaded day comes....it will pass and only good memories will be left behind....

[RChevy.48]

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my grandfather has been in the hospital over the past week for a minor heart attack.. this is one of 3 that he has had. last night my family and i had gone and visited him and he was in great spirits and getting around just fine, while acting like his normal self.

he was supposed to have open heart surgery today, but after evaluation his doctor decided against it. they figure with his age and how extensive the damage to his heart is, he would be better off sent home with medication, AGAIN. don&#39;t get me wrong, the medication they gave him last time gave him 6 more years to live, to this day and then some.

what i want to know is, what&#39;s the easiest way to prepare myself for his death, which could be anyday now.. (knock on wood) hopefully not anytime soon.

thanks for any guidance here..
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beleive me its no better knowing the person is gonna go soon or is a sudden death....we all hate it when we loose a loved one....i didnt share this but i lost my older brother to congestive heart failure on friday 8/12 ...he was only 56 years old and was under dr&#39;s care for a infection in his leg...what a shocker&#33;&#33;&#33;
the best thing you can do is be strong for one another when that dreaded day comes....it will pass and only good memories will be left behind....
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My heart goes out to both of you. It is hard having a loved one pass away. My grandfather died a little less than ten years ago. His doctors said he would die about ten years before that of hear failure. I was greatful for all the time I had with him. Even though he was in bad health his death was a bit of surprise, he died of a leak in his intestines from an earlier surgery. The best I can say to do is cherrish(sp) everyday you have with your grandfather, and give him all your love and support.

[mongoose90584]

Take everyday and cherish what you have. Dont view his death as an end. View it as a rebirth. He we will be reborn in the hands of the father. He will not have anymore pain. You have my prayers for you and your family. It is hard i know. I have lost many friends and relatives in the past 10 years. Dont let there memory die. Live each day to the fullest. Don&#39;t take forgranted what you have or it may not be there tomorrow. We are all here for you. Also remeber for every end there is a new beginning. Instead of mourn, Celebrate. Celebrate the life he has had, the family he has and what he has accomplished. Spend as much time as you can with him. Make sure there is nothing left unsaid. Just know it will be difficult but you can work through. Especially with the friends and family that you have. Lean on them and us for support we will help you get through it.

[DBYRD]

i agree with all the statements above, but i think the thing we must remember most in times like these is this: we shouldnt be selfish(as far as our personal hardships go), think about him and the things he&#39;s having to go through. i think this is the hardest part of it all, and also the most surreal life gets. if u were suffering, or hurting and going through so much pain and agony, would u wanna live that way? its hard to say these things, but one day we&#39;ll all be at that point, and just know he loves u and let him know u love him man this is the toughest time in my life too, and i know a few other members r going through tough times, just again know we r here for u and ur not alone. god bless ur family, be strong for him, cuz he was always strong for u.

[GMCwantsLS1]

Hang in there guys&#33; I wish the best for you and your families. God bless&#33;

[Jamest]

I DONT THINK THERE IS REALLY ANYWAY TO PREPARE FOR DEATHS. THE GOOD THINK IS THAT YOU HAVE HIM HERE NOW. MAKE THE BEST OF IT. DEATH IS A TRAGEDY ON EARTH BUT A TRIUMPH IN HEAVEN AS LONG AS THEY ARE SAVED. IT IS APART OF OUR LIVES NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK AT IT. JUST MAKE THE BEST OF IT WHILE YOU STILL HAVE A CHANCE.

I SORRY FOR THE OTHER DEATHS THAT HAVE BEEN MENTIONED ON THIS SIGHT. PEACE BE WITH ALL YOUR FAMILIES.

JAMEST

[xlr82sxs]

i appreciate the support guys&#33; quite a few of you had great words of wisdom that i can relate to. thanks&#33;

..as for my grandfathers status, he&#39;s still acting his normal self, which is hard to &#39;mask&#39; so to speak.. i have recently been notified that they are going to follow through with surgery, but not the type that had 75% risks. they assume it will open a few more arteries that haven&#39;t been functional in a few years.

it&#39;s nice to have a bit of support in our hardships.



and to those with recent and not so recent deaths that posted here, my condolences are sent out to each and every one of your family members. it&#39;s definitely not an easy thing to go through.